I'm going to blame this on my brain chemistry, too. It's not as much blaming but accepting it in those times when I don't love it and cherishing it in those times where it is most helpful. It is certainly one of those things that can come across as a blessing and a curse, but again acceptance helps pair that down to what it is, something that is.
What in the world is this lunatic babbling about? I have a weird trait where I tend to be pessimistic when things are good and optimistic when things aren't so great. I'm starting to believe depression isn't as much about always being negative, but rather a constant attempt at rationalization. You see, whether we admit it or not, most of the time life is pretty good. Since life is pretty good most of the time, depressed people end up evaluating the other side of things. On those rare times when life is (and excuse my frankness) at its shittiest, we are often able to rationally see the other side and help people see hope in their misery.
I came to this idea as I was reading a book on negotiating. The book teaches negotiation shouldn't be based on managing a position, rather it should be started in looking at shared values while maintaining individual core values. Thinking about application of that idea I realized it is something I do all of the time. I constantly look at the other side of an equation to understand the value before I judge merits. That lead me to realize my brain is constantly taking a position against itself.
Maybe that isn't the case for everyone. I have said it before, I am not any sort of psych- anything; just a nut with an idea or two. I do realize, however, that it really is a blessing. If I can keep focused on the idea I can grab positives out of any negative situation, I can encourage someone else who is really hurting. What is it that we really need when we hurt more than comfort?
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